Blogger — Karen J. Gregory
Let me first say, “I love what I do”. I really do. I meet all kinds of interesting people and love working with those who have a passion for making things happen. Those that have a passion and desire to succeed. They can move mountains…well, at least they believe they can. And that’s half the battle.
I mean, let me be honest here. If you’re like me, you enjoy and are energized by being around and part of the “mover and shakers” and are less inclined to stick around the “fence-riders” and the “wishy-washy” antics of those who don’t know what they want out of life. I personally find it stressful to not have direction and focus on the things that I want to achieve in life, both personally and professionally. I want to be working in the direction of my goals and I’m a woman on a mission. On the other hand, I also acknowledge I’m much more of a Type A and probably won’t live as long as those who can just run with life as it comes. 🙂
Recently I have encountered many people who really want to do great things; they want to develop and grow personally, they want to open their aperture and learn new things, they want to expand professionally, either in their business or as a professional executive or employee. This really gets me excited.
And then there’s the detour. Right after hearing about all of the exciting ideas, dreams and goals — the many things they would love to accomplish — comes all the reasons why they are not going to reach the goals they set for themselves. In many cases, they don’t even see it themselves. They are excited with the idea, but not the action they have to take to move forward.
It’s like watching an inflated balloon rise, rise, rise…all to be bursted in mid air, pieces shredded, falling back to the ground. The excitement and thrill of “launching” was initially there and then something (likely their inner voice) destroyed the excitement and thrill of rising to the occasion — being all that they dreamed they could become.
So why does this happen? Well, there could be several reasons: low self-esteem, negative influence from others, or lack of commitment, to name just a few. And lack of commitment is what I want to speak to today.
The 3 Signs of Lack of Commitment
1. No time, no money. And I’ll respond with no excuse. For those who really want to make a difference in their life, they find a way. They learn to prioritize, they get super efficient with managing their time, they cut back on other things in their lives, they barter for services, and they work extra hard to accomplish more. In short, those that want it badly enough, find a way to get what they want and deserve…because they are committed to moving forward.
“If you really want to do something, you’ll find a way. If you don’t, you’ll find an excuse.” ~ Jim Rohn
2. Fear of the unknown. No one ever said change was easy. But you can’t let the fear of change or the unknown stop you from accomplishing your dreams and everything you deserve and can be. Take hold of what it is that you want. Ask yourself how badly do you want it and why? If you really, really want to move forward, then make the decision and move out without looking back. Fear is destabilizing, crippling, and unjustified. Don’t limit yourself. You deserve better.
“The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek.” ~ Joseph Campbell
3. No course of direction. Generally speaking, if you don’t have a road map, you’ll get nowhere fast, right? Determine what it is that you want to accomplish and create a plan of action for obtaining your goals. Writing down your dreams and goals creates more commitment. It’s a plan; a road map to where you want to be. And following your road map of how you plan to accomplish your dreams and goals will get you to your destination of success and accomplishment, albeit a journey.
“When obstacles arise, you change your direction to reach the goal; you do not change your decision to get there.” ~ Zig Ziglar
I wrote about taking action in my Jan 3rd blog post titled, “Stop Talking, Start Doing“. Do you want something different for yourself? Then commit to taking action and moving forward by stabilizing the effects of lack of commitment. Instead commit to an exuberant and robust life full of optimism, energy, and learning by moving forward and not looking back.
Those that achieve, create a road map, and then jump into action. That’s commitment! And commitment is what moves people forward.
“A dream is only a dream…until you decide to make it real.” ~ Harry Styles
I’d love to hear how you create focus and commitment to realizing your dreams.